Friday, February 24, 2012

Death and Dealing With Grief

At some point in each of our lives we will be faced with the death of a loved one.  Yet, death is still a touchy subject for a lot of people.  Many times when someone dies we don't like to talk about the person.  And quite often I've been where the simple mention of death is totally avoided.  For those who have experienced such a loss, it is important to know that God is still with you and he loves you.

The believer will dwellin God's house forever
John 14:1-4  "Let not your hearts be troubled.  Trust in God; trust also in me.  In my Father's house ar emany rooms; if it were no so, I would have told you.  I am going to prepare a place for you.  And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and tak you to be with me that you also may be where I am.  You know the way to the place where I am going."

There will be no mor suffering and sorrow
Rev. 21:1-4  Then I saw a new heaven and new earth, for the first heaven and first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea.  I saw the Holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride beatifully dressed for her husband.  And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, "Now the dwelling of God is with men and he will live with them.  They will be his people and God himself will be with them and be their God.  Hw will wipe away every tear from their eyes.  There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.

When we are hurting, we should learn to still trust and praise God.  Have faith that he will bring the peace back into your life.

Christ gives peace and rest to all who come to him in faith
Matt. 11:28-30  Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.

Jesus is the Prince of Peace
Isa. 9:6  He will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

God is always leading and protecting us!!!! Read Psalm 23 ( you probably already know it by heart)

God works all things together for our good
Rom. 8:28  We know that all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

For those who have lost a loved one or someone near and dear to them, know that God can fill those voids that you are left with.

2 Cor. 9:8  God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.

When grieving the death of a loved one, you may experience several emotions: denial, disbelief, depression, anger, confusion, and guilt just to name a few. 

Coping with death is very important to your mental health.  Here are a few ways to cope effectively with grief:
  1. Express your feelings---tell others how you feel to help you work through the grieving process.
  2. Seek out caring people---find relatives and friends who can understand your feelings of loss.  Join support groups.
  3. Take care of your health---Eat and get plenty of rest.
  4. Be patient---It can take months to years to come to terms with your loss.
  5. Seek outside help when necessary---if it seems too much to bear, seek professional help
When helping others grieve:
  1. Share the sorrow---allow/encourage them to talk about it and share memories.  Listen.  You may also share your own experience with death.
  2. Offer practical help---baby-sitting, cooking, running errands.
  3. Be patient.
  4. Encourage them to seek professional help if you feel they are not coping well with the loss.
Resources/references:
GriefNet.org---an online community support for people dealing with grief, death, and major loss.  This is for kids and adults

Compassionate Friends---National, self help organization for those grieving the loss of a child.  If you enter your city or zip code it will give you the information to the nearest Compassionate Friends location.  The information below is for Wichita, KS:
Sunflower Chapter
Chapter # 1134
Meeting: 1st Thurs. of each month at 7:00PM
Place:  Central Community Church 6100 W. Maple Ste. 217 Wichita, KS 67209

Be Blessed

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